12 Ideas on how to support a friend who lost thier home.

KW Cares

Jan 22

If you are saying “MY FRIEND JUST LOST THEIR HOME IN A FIRE" Here are 12 ideas that you can do to help. Everyone is different so be sensitive to thier needs.

1. Remember that they don't realize yet that they don't even own a toothbrush. The first day is OVERWHELMING to say the least.

2. Respect the fact that they are being overwhelmed by phone calls and text messages and may not be able to get back to you. Be patient.

3. If you want to help, Venmo them money or offer them gift cards to places like Target

4. Offer to house their pets if they are displaced in a hotel. (Christina, Debbie and Tracy were lifesavers for me for my dogs and turtle!)

5. Do not overwhelm them with a bunch of items they have nowhere to put. Only necessities first. Keep it simple with single store gift cards. I mentioned Target because that store saved us on day 1 when we realized we didn't own underwear or socks or pajamas or phone chargers.

6. Cash is king. Venmo or Zelle. They will need to go shopping at the places that bring them comfort once they realize what they need. (How can I nicely say....don't show up with bags of your old clothes unless they request it specifically when you ask them.....you are creating an extra job for them to dispose of what doesn't fit or they don't want and they don’t want to hurt your feelings so they take it anyway)

7. Many will refuse help out of pride. Remind them that it will bring you JOY when they accept your monetary gift and not to feel guilty about taking it. I learned the hard way that I was taking away people's joy by refusing their help. I am not very good at receiving ( still working on that one) I didn't want people spending their hard earned money on me when I knew we had insurance. I am sorry if you tried to help me and I wouldn't let you. I was trying to help you before you could help me. Please forgive me, I understand now.

8: Offer to make them dinner and invite them to your home or go to a restaurant. They have nowhere to go. It is nice to feel normal after so much turmoil before deciding what is next.

9. Don't stop reaching out. The love we felt from friends and even perfect strangers completely restored our faith in humanity.

10. Encourage them to find temporary rental ASAP before they are all taken up.

11. Advise them to hire an insurance advocate so that they will get their full insurance policy. The insurance company is going to try to give an offer that is much less than what is due. Do not let them accept the first offer.

12. Remind them that if there was not lives lost, then the rest IS JUST STUFF and can be replaced.